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Nerves, Heartflips & Courage

Nerves, Heartflips & Courage

We all need help with moving forward in business, but sometimes it can feel a little nervewracking asking the champion advocate you'd like to help you.  

Many women ask me how to ask for help without sounding needy, or are concerned a senior advocate would not have the time for them.

Others ask what the actual specifics are of how you ask for help.

So I created 4 key tips for you, including this 2 min video to help you rock connecting with your champion advocate with courage. Press Play! >>


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We can break it down into some key steps. Once you've identified who you would like to help you, dealing with the nerves goes as follows. 


1. What's in it for them. Frame up your request with a firm foundation that speaks to their key drivers and what makes them tick. We're all human, and you'll get much better results if you do your homework.


2. Know their communication style and the one they naturally connect with. Are they interested more in results or the facts behind it. Are they interested more in the energy you bring, or how you came to be where you are now? Essentially, how do you communicate with them in a way that they simply "get" you, and what you say resonates strongly with her or him.


3. How's your mindset? We know you're nervous, that's why you want help - duh! But did you know the power of using visualisations - they're an incredible tool to see how you want the outcome to be, before it happens. A great visualisation of this all going great will be awesome for you.


4. It's ok to be nervous - it just shows you want this very much, and that's a great thing. According to a 2011 Harvard Business Review, women are 54% less likely than men to have a sponsor, and yet a sponsor is a critical part of your career plan - they actively help you advance it by. 


Recently I worked with a client who transformed the results she was getting in terms of a role she wanted (alongside her overall career trajectory) simply by being clear with her key advocate within her company around the leadership path she wanted to be put on, on particular example being a crucial leadership strategy session she was invited to become a part of. Her results speak for themselves - getting a career internal champion advocate helps you significantly fast-track your career.


Unlike a mentor, a sponsor is someone who can not only advise you on your career but actively help advance it. They have power in an organization and can use their social capital and credibility to advocate for you. According to a 2011 Harvard Business Review special report, sponsors not only advise their charges, they promote, protect, prepare, and push them.   the Harvard Business Review research revealed both men and women undervalue or fail to nurture a network of professional sponsors. Yet women are 54% less likely than men to have a sponsor.


If you would like more specific help on how you can use a range of tools to communicate your value in a way that feels authentic to you as a woman, so you get the role, promotion or raise you want for 2018, you are welcome to book in a complimentary chat with me here. Alternatively, my contact details are here. Have a great week, I look forward to catching up with you again soon. 


Warmly, Kimberly


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